There's an answer, but it isn't a quick fix

From a good article by Jen Abbas, author of Generation Ex:
"The good news is that there is hope for healing our hurts. It’s not an easy, 12-step kind of healing. We won’t find closure in 30 days, or maybe even 30 years. But we can find continual closure, grieving our losses as we become aware of them."

Thanks also to Jen for the mention and link on her blog. If you're checking this out from that link, welcome!