Gary Thomas on marriage:
"'It's the petty spiritual choices that we make that poisons what was once a very precious relationship and turns it into one that is marked by misery and frustration. We have lost the character to make a lifelong decision that requires sacrifice, generosity, service and the concept of putting the needs of a couple ahead of ourselves as an individual.'
"'They are ashamed they have acted in a petty, selfish manner rather than seeing marriage as a way to face up to what can help them grow. It's easier to run away and start over with someone else than it is to ask for forgiveness and courageously face it. '"