Saturday, August 05, 2006

Creating a safe environment

I linked to a post previously about a program like this, but this article has additional details on how the program works. Called Kids' Corner, this provides a safe environment for children to be handed off from one parent to another in situations where violence or turbulence exists. According to the article, "The program prevents having the children come into contact with police who have to show up and quell the violence with their parents."

Still, some people never learn to get along. "Some cases show up 17 years after the couple splits, as the ex-husband and wife battle over issues, such as who pays the college tuition and who gets to see the grades of the students...'Imagine yourself ready to go off to college and getting a fresh start, but having to come back to court to testify how much scholarship money you will receive and how much you have to pay for tuition.'"


Matt said...

Imagine that the first contact you have with your father since the age of 3 is when your mom allows you to call him to ask him for copies of his last 2 years' income tax returns, in order to fill out financial aid paperwork. Not to bond or tell him about the last 14 years of your life...just to ask him to mail the papers, and then immediately hang up on him.

Imagine you're 29 years old, your father has just died, and in the midst of making funeral arrangements for this man you still haven't actually _seen_ since the age of 3, but for whom you are nevertheless legal next-of-kin and hence responsible for signing all the insane amount of paperwork it takes to die in the United States these the midst of that little adventure, most of your attention has to be on your mother's latest round of drama with her boyfriend.

Anyone who thinks the side effects of divorce are over quickly, or that they're limited to the kids who drop out of school and start using drugs, is simply not living in the real world.

Kristine said...

Matt, if this is your story, my heart breaks for you. Parents should deal with the fallout from divorce (paperwork, for example) on their own. Thanks for reminding us of the sad fact that this is not always the case.