Ex-etiquette tackles a boy's anger that Dad has tattooed over Mom's name.
"Even though the child may never say it, she may worry that your attachment to her might be just as easily erased as altering a tattoo."
Referenced in this article is a web site for "bonus" families, which explains itself thus: "Step implies negative things--wicked, evil, certainly not a contributing member of a family. But a bonus is something positive, a reward for a job well-done. In stepfamily lingo bonus is the top level..."
Well, isn't that a nice euphemism? I prefer the Velveteen Rabbit way--becoming real through a process of love, even if it wears off the fur and the eyes and the whiskers.