Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Now you see Dad, now you don't

Children of divorce sometimes talk about having to be selective in their memories, parsing out the stories of vacations and holidays and fun times depending on which parent they are with at the moment and which parent was or was not a participant in the original festivities. We lose something of ourselves by having to carefully edit our speech. Now it seems, we're in danger of having our visual memories edited for the comfort and convenience of others as well.

Idealized images, she said, can give people “a new script for dealing with problems families have always had: family members who don’t get along, divorce.”

“If you can’t have the perfect family,” she added, “at least you can Photoshop it.”
HT: Gina Dalfonso

1 comment:

Raychel Celeste said...

I'm 21 yrs old and my parents who have been married for 24 years are getting divorced. It's frustrating. I feel like they're both acting like idiots, and I don't know who's side I'm supposed to take. I don't want to take a side, but it's like we (my brother, sister, and I - all adults) are being forced to. Being raised in a Christian home, I never imagined my parents getting divorced. I don't even find myself feeling sad, but rather really angry at them. I'm so disappointed. I don't know how to deal with this.